Mother's Day is just around the corner, which means platitudes of gratitude are about to fill your feeds. 

But moms don't want brunch and flowers.  They want partners who notice what needs to be done and do it without being asked.

What’s often mistaken for “women complaining” is actually a cry for help directed at the very systems and people that claim to care about them. And the reality is: every ambitious woman I know has two jobs. The one that pays her, and the one that doesn’t. The truth is, men have been able to “have it all” because, for most of modern history, they haven’t been expected to do it all. Their careers were built on the back of someone other people’s invisible contributions: wives, mothers, sisters, and girlfriends. Women absorbed the mental load so men could stay at the office late, travel for work, r…